-------- "This is the time for action not only words, use your God given gifts to develop this country, dont be afraid to speak up, and feel PROUD THAT U R EGYPTIAN." -------- Mohaly, Feb 2011
Monday, May 21, 2007
166) Personal: He's asking me about her, shit!
What do you do when you like someone, but dont have the guts to tell her. Then an old friend of you is suddenly asking you about her and showing his interest. What shall you do? Awkward and stupid situation!
I had the same situation (parking :) ) once. I really liked a girl that I knew for a very long time that it became impossible afterwards to tell her that I liked her( because you know you get too close to each other that you don't really understand if it was mutual or is it just getting used to each other that you became like a brother and sister), el mohem, I was practical. I never told her anything, and even if she liked me she wont wait forever for me to talk. I told him that she was the finest girl you can ever marry...........and they got married.
Ok... My 2 cents for you ya mohaly :D Enta 3aref, lazem aba3bar 3an ra2yy kal 3ada...
first of all, i think both you and your friend should tell the girl about your feelings, from one side, she should know, and it's up to her to decide... from another point, say you didnt tell her, and your friend did... you could be wondering and torturing yourself saying "what if i had told her, would she have picked me?" without being able to let it go...
and the opposite is true, if your friend decided not to tell her, and you did. you will always wonder "what if he told her, would she have picked him?" you would be poisoning your life and mind, when the solution is simple.
so really, you should tell her, and tell your friend that he should tell her too.
as for friendship and how long you've known each other... real friendships survive practically anything. you do what you have to do to get the things you want in life. If your friend understands how you feel, he will understand that you have to tell her too.
I had the same situation TR mentioned. i've known a very close friend of mine for years and years, and after a while, he got confused about it, and he decided to tell me. I told him it wouldnt work. there was a bit of a distance between us for a while, but then after the awkwardness was gone, we were able to talk about it openly, and close the subject and go back to our old friendship again, and now we are even closer...
so you never know what might happen... but you have to go out there, do your best to get what you want, and hope for the best to happen...
law kanet men naseebak, hatgeelak, law la2, yeb2a rabena kateblak 7aga a7san :) bas es3a ya 3abd wana as3a ma3ak, and u definitely need closure on this :)
actually it ended up the same way guys, i talked with my friend yesterday and agreed that we will talk to her, and if she gives a green light to one of us, the other will step out without problems.
i dont know may be i have grown up, i am handling it very practically!! I would have crashed if this happened 7 years ago!
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if you really (like) her be courageous and tell her before he tells her. and tell him that he is playing in your zone and should look for another one.
do u think when i tell him that, he will just let it go!
then tell her and she has to choose. like in the mexican serials :)) and don't care about him if he insisted I am sure she will choose you :))
ya3nee i have to choose between him and her :(
if he is a real friend he will understand the situation and leave the game for you.
We confronted each other, and it is the war...we are still friends but rivals as well!!
I had the same situation (parking :) ) once. I really liked a girl that I knew for a very long time that it became impossible afterwards to tell her that I liked her( because you know you get too close to each other that you don't really understand if it was mutual or is it just getting used to each other that you became like a brother and sister), el mohem, I was practical. I never told her anything, and even if she liked me she wont wait forever for me to talk. I told him that she was the finest girl you can ever marry...........and they got married.
fale7, and i did that twice and dont wanna do it again, kefaya ba2a, i am fed up with myself.
wallahy law mafate7tahash e7a3'ayar ra2yee feek :P
Ok... My 2 cents for you ya mohaly :D
Enta 3aref, lazem aba3bar 3an ra2yy kal 3ada...
first of all, i think both you and your friend should tell the girl about your feelings, from one side, she should know, and it's up to her to decide...
from another point, say you didnt tell her, and your friend did... you could be wondering and torturing yourself saying "what if i had told her, would she have picked me?" without being able to let it go...
and the opposite is true, if your friend decided not to tell her, and you did. you will always wonder "what if he told her, would she have picked him?"
you would be poisoning your life and mind, when the solution is simple.
so really, you should tell her, and tell your friend that he should tell her too.
as for friendship and how long you've known each other... real friendships survive practically anything.
you do what you have to do to get the things you want in life. If your friend understands how you feel, he will understand that you have to tell her too.
I had the same situation TR mentioned. i've known a very close friend of mine for years and years, and after a while, he got confused about it, and he decided to tell me. I told him it wouldnt work. there was a bit of a distance between us for a while, but then after the awkwardness was gone, we were able to talk about it openly, and close the subject and go back to our old friendship again, and now we are even closer...
so you never know what might happen... but you have to go out there, do your best to get what you want, and hope for the best to happen...
law kanet men naseebak, hatgeelak, law la2, yeb2a rabena kateblak 7aga a7san :)
bas es3a ya 3abd wana as3a ma3ak, and u definitely need closure on this :)
actually it ended up the same way guys, i talked with my friend yesterday and agreed that we will talk to her, and if she gives a green light to one of us, the other will step out without problems.
i dont know may be i have grown up, i am handling it very practically!! I would have crashed if this happened 7 years ago!
Yenfa3 keda, aseebak kam yoom teroo7 te3mel keda?
el 3amaleya ya tamer, kollo besabab el 3amaleya :P
eah da howa 3amal 3amalya gheeyr ely 2aly 3aleha??? ana lazem a3raf el mawdoo3 da!!
hheheheheh
I agree with Yassmine, good advice!
Mohaly, u know that u wont rest until it is over whether as a yes or no, you cant stand waiting, so make urself a favour and just go!
Y.I.
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