-------- "This is the time for action not only words, use your God given gifts to develop this country, dont be afraid to speak up, and feel PROUD THAT U R EGYPTIAN." -------- Mohaly, Feb 2011

Wednesday, March 19, 2008

379) Marriage in the 21st Centry - Part II

People marry for many reasons, but usually one or more of the following: legal, social and economic stability; the formation of a family unit; procreation and the education and nurturing of children; legitimizing sexual relations; public declaration of love; or to obtain citizenship.

This issue "marriage" became one of the most annoying issues for a lot of guys and girls over 30.

Why was it easier zaman to get married than now? What happened to marriage in the 21st century? I am wondering why when you have the money to get married you dont have the will, and when you have the will you dont have the money, and when you have the money and the will you dont have a choice, and when you have a choice you dont have the health.....!!! Am I too pessimestic about marriage?!



amina said...

Single people may engage in dating to find a partner or spouse. Not all single people actively seek out a relationship, however, as some are content to wait for the 'right' person to enter their lives, while others do not seek relations at all.

Loneliness can occur for many single people who look for but cannot find anyone they might wish to date, especially for those suffering the loss of companionship following divorce or bereavement. Some single people, however, regard and appreciate solitude as an opportunity.

Tamer Mokhtar said...

before was more easy to accept other, now it's not. also the criteria of selection has changed as well.

Shimaa Gamal said...

I will tell you why it gets harder to get married when you get older. It is harder because when you grow older you know that marriage isn’t a decision to be taken lightly. When you grow older you start calculating the costs of that safe company. You will have company at the highest cost of personal space (and this goes for both men and women). When you are over 30 you know that failure is a probability that can’t be predicted. When you are over 30 you know that heartbreaks aren’t easy. That’s why younger people marry easier. Regardless the finances, I have a theory that people with fewer finances marry younger. Look around you, bent el bawab will never cross the age of 16 without marriage, and she is probably marrying a relative who isn’t older than 20. Do they have plenty of money, the answer will sure be no. are they as demanding as any other Egyptian family, the answer will be sure yes. They are demanding to the extent enohom haynfado el 3arees welly khalefoh, just like any other Egyptian family. But they value marriage for many reasons fa they just do it. On the other hand, fi sho2a2 el 3emara elly beyshta3’al feeha el bawab. The guys my age are classified to the following. 1st category: already taken, the fell in love and got married and they are happily regretting it now :. The second category; single well equipped and happy. This second category might think of marriage but it will always be the problem of choice. Which might be named 7agat keteer. I have friends yefdalo ye2olo asl ahl el 3aroosa talbeen 7agat keteer, asl el 3aroosa zanana, and a long list of reasons. And the real reason is, they can’t find a way to commit. On the other hand, girls my age can be classified to those who got married before the age of 25 and happily regretting taking the step too soon. Those who are happily single, or at least trying to be for the same reasons the guys are enjoying their single life, and the last category those who will do anything to get married. We dol ba2a elly beywaf2o 3ala ay 7aga just because the community’s view of el 3awanes. And will willingly suffer for the rest of their life. just because ma7desh ye2ool 3aliha 3anes.
You asked what the problem with marriage in the 21st century is, my answer is: Us.
The persons have changed, but the traditions are two steps behind.

omar said...

i agree with shaimaa, and i guess that me, mohaly, and even titi are from the 2nd category: single, happy, and giving execuses!

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Shimaa Gamal said...

:) dah ma3ad el matlab el esboo3y beta3y. and like every week I will blame el rekaba 3ala el ta2kheer.
fien el weekly eps. ya Mohaly :)

Mohaly said...

Hi Shimaa, I do my best to have it out on Sunday morning, but as you know I travel a lot so I am not always connected on that time, but I make sure that it is issued on Sunday no matter what :)

Shimaa Gamal said...

:) mashy ya moha
but I won't promise eny habtal azen :) You know being a woman I am entitled to nag :)
da ana kont nawya atlob mol7a2 fi west el esboo3 :) 3ashan ala2y forsa azen LOL

rabena ma3ak :)

Ree said...

wow!!! I just love how you reflect on everything and think deeply about stuff msAllah :)
I think you are so right it's becoming very difficult even on those younger than 30 :) I believe its cos we no longer know why we are doing that? we became so materialistic and looks became very important in the relation. I know that looks play a great part, but still I believe it is not everything. people wanna have a partner who is flawless! which will never happen; these are some of the reasons IMHO