-------- "This is the time for action not only words, use your God given gifts to develop this country, dont be afraid to speak up, and feel PROUD THAT U R EGYPTIAN." -------- Mohaly, Feb 2011

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

774) Being Egyptian 2.0: Building a Generation !

Today in the morning, there was a traffic jam beside a school, and I starred at a mother who kept her eyes on her kids till they safely entered the school, and kept on looking back to be sure that they fine and didn't forget anything, then she left and her face and eyes looking to the sky as if she was praying for God to keep them safe.

I have always seen the relationship between the mother and her children a very unique and sacred relationship and I can claim that if we have healthy relationship with our mothers, the whole society will be much better even in Business & in-turn Economy. This relation is the basic unit for a successful community that our Country can't really develop without setting it right. If you don't believe me, consider the following story:

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.
- The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "none".
- The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.
- The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
- The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
-The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid. The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future. After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."
The youth said, 
Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. 
Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. 
Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?

The most important thing is our kids should learn is how to appreciate the effort, experience the difficulty, and learns the ability to work with others to get things done, or else, the next generation of Egypt won't lead the real change that we are looking up to after our great revolution.



ahmad said...

لم يجد رجل الأعمال الغارق في ديونه وسيلة للخروج منها سوى بأن يجلس على كرسي
بالحديقة العامة وهو في قمة الحزن والهمّ متسائلاً إن كان هناك من ينقذه ،
وينقذ شركته من الإفلاس ؟

فجأة !!!

ظهر له رجل عجوز وقال له :

" أرى أن هناك ما يزعجك "

فحكى له رجل الأعمال ما أصابه

فرد عليه العجوز قائلا :

" أعتقد أن بإمكاني مساعدتك "

ثم سأل الرجل عن اسمه وكتب له " شيكاً " وسلّمهُ له قائلاً :

"خذ هذه النقود وقابلني بعد سنة بهذا المكان لتعيد المبلغ "

وبعدها رحل العجوز وبقي رجل الأعمال مشدوهاً يقلب بين يديه شيكاً بمبلغ نصف
مليون دولار عليه توقيع "جون دي روكفلر "

و " جون دي روكفلر " هو رجل أعمال أمريكي كان أكثر رجال العالم ثراء فترة 1839
م – 1937 م

جمع ثروته من عمله في مجال البترول ، وفي وقت لاحق أصبح من المشهورين.

أنفق روكفلر خلال حياته مبلغ 550 مليون دولار أمريكي تقريبًا في مشروعات خيرية.

أفاق الرجل من ذهوله وقال بحماسة :

الآن أستطيع أن أمحو بهذه النقود كل ما يقلقني ، ثم فكر لوهلة وقرر أن يسعى
لحفظ شركته من الإفلاس دون أن يلجأ لصرف الشيك الذي أتخذه مصدر أمان وقوة له

وانطلق بتفاؤل نحو شركته وبدأ أعماله ودخل بمفاوضات ناجحة مع الدائنين لتأجيل
تاريخ الدفع

واستطاع تحقيق عمليات بيع كبيرة لصالح شركته

وخلال بضعة شهور استطاع أن يسدد ديونه .. وبدأ يربح من جديد.

وبعد انتهاء السنة المحددة من قبل ذلك العجوز، ذهب الرجل إلى الحديقة متحمساً
فوجد ذلك الرجل العجوز بانتظاره على نفس الكرسي، فلم يستطيع أن يتمالك نفسه
فأعطاه الشيك الذي لم يصرفه، وبدأ يقص عليه قصة النجاحات التي حققها دون أن
يصرف الشيك.

وفجأة قاطعته ممرضة مسرعة باتجاه العجوز قائلة :

الحمد لله أني وجدتك هنا، فأخذته من يده، وقالت لرجل الأعمال:

" أرجو ألا يكون قد أزعجك، فهو دائم الهروب من مستشفى المجانين المجاور لهذه
الحديقة، ويدّعي للناس بأنه " جون دي روكفلر "

وقف رجل الأعمال تغمره الدهشة ويفكر في تلك السنة الكاملة التي مرت وهو ينتزع
شركته من خطر الإفلاس ويعقد صفقات البيع والشراء ويفاوض بقوة لاقتناعه بأن هناك
نصف مليون دولار خلفة!

حينها أدرك أنّ النقود لم تكن هي التي غيَّرت حياته وأنقذت شركته، بل الذي
غيرها هو اكتشافه الجديد المتمثل في

( الثقة بالنفس )

فهي التي تمنحك قوة تجعلك تتخطى أخطر فشل وتحقق أعظم نجاح.

Mohamed Mansour said...

All stories are magnificent.

Anonymous said...

I fully agree with your point of view, that kids should be taught the importance of appreciation towards anyone, who does something kind to them. Taking the other for granted doesn't only hurt, but also pushes the second party to stop giving and even regret giving. and this applies for different kinds of relationships in one's life. it goes for parents-kids as well, however here parents feel more bitterness rather than regret.which is worse, if you ask me.
sure it is better to learn this "skill" in childhood, but it is never too late to aquire it.
An adult, who doesn't seem to respect other's giving to him, should change this part in their personality.and this case i would not blame their parents for not teaching them this concept.I definitly would blame such adults for being irresponsibly selfish.

Another point I would like to add here, is the role of teachers and their responsibility towards their students. we can not split this role from the parents' role in building the generation. I wish there would come the time, where students' manners and personality building would be the teacher's first priority, and where the teacher would get back the very much earned respect from his students.

Eli Rush said...

You write very well! These stories are great.

You might enjoy my blog, though it is a little less heavy.


Mohaly said...

Thank You, u got a very cheerful blog.

MadCatMk2 said...

This was really touching. Thanks for spending the time to post.. to teach.

Mohaly said...

MadCat: welcome to the blog :) and u r most welcomed to read or share any of the posts.

Anonymous said...

One of my favourite posts ya Dr. Mohamed i read it yesterday at 3 AM i'm a sleepless person very nice and touchy .
Happy Mother's Day to ur MOM :)