682) A Quick Guide for Cairo Traffic Light !

The Traffic Light in Cairo:

Green Light is just stating the obvious, you gonna pass anyway.

Red Light is just a suggestion to stop, that you "might" consider.

while Yello Light is ...... just for decoration!

Mohaly

681) E3terafat Mohaly - Part 4 !

I did hurt some people by my words. It was my only way out to get out of the feeling of being trapped, but it shouldn't be done on the expense of their feelings.

Girls, I AM SORRY, and I do apologize in public.

Mohaly

680) Personal ::: Being Lazy !

Everyday I go to sleep and wish that I will wake up full of energy, but I wake up as if I haven't slept in weeks!

I eat well, go to the Gym 3 or 4 times per week, I love my work, and I am not lazy by nature, but I feel soooooooo lazy for the last couple of months. I am overwhelmed by doing nothing although I haven't been than busy in years... I am really not excited about doing anything!
Why? Any help?
Please...
Mohaly

679) Let's Just Kill Them !

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The Parliament members who were "elected" by the people to speak in their name and defend their rights, are amazingly asking the ministry of interior to SHOOT the demonstrators dead! As if it is not enough to humilate, beat, and putting them in prison... Kill Them, just for demonstrating (which is legal by the way)... 
This piece of news really provoked me! 

Mohaly

678) "On the Stay" !

I have been wondering lately about the status of "On the Run". I thought from the name, it is a quick-buy shop where the average time stay doesn't exceed 5 mins at most. However, it has been lately noticed that it is always crowded and people may spend 30 mins or more socializing there although the place is not designed or capable of handling all these people for that long! The amazing part is that its current FM Radio campaign has a slogan saying "2abelni Henak" which means Let's meet-up there which I see totally contradicting with the cocept of "On the Run"... Why?!
I am suggesting that it will be more realistic and matching to what is really happening  if it changed its name to "On the Stay"... 2abelni henak ;)
Mohaly

677) The Vision - Eps. 9 (final)- Monitoring!

So what was done so far?

You have set yourself a Mission, some goals, strategies of how to implement it, figured out the barriers and how to overcome it.

It is about time to think about implementing what you have planned, but in order to know if you are going in the right direction or not, you need to set the right milestones for monitoring your implementation.

So what is the duration of these milestones?

Actually it can be set according to time, and in this case it has be long enough to allow you to implement and study what you have done, but short enough to overcome and correct any mistakes or diversion (e.g, every 2 weeks if your plan is a year plan but not every day nor every quarter).

The milestones can be set according to triggers as well. For example, you can say if you saved $10,000, you will be moving to next step (regardless of timing).. or combining time and triggers together.

The most important thing is that you gotta set milestones in order to be able to monitor your performance and be able to evaluate it to know if you are on the right track or not, and be better every time.


End of Series.
Mohaly

676) Personal ::: Tahyees Morakaz 3 !

I am alone, sunset is approaching, so sleepy and lazy to do anything ... I have a class in 2 hours and I went there 3 hours earlier! I have just fired a client in the morning and decided to get rid of his pain, and money as well. I feel that I can't relate to anything even myself. I have also hurt one of my very respected and stubborn friends. I have been even... wala balash..
I don't wanna do anything. I just have just signed couple of big contracts with 2 international reputable instition, and got great feedback from many of my audience and clients about my work. However, I do wanna do anything. I love what I do, and bardo don't wanna do anything.
A whole week aborad in successful business was supposed to make me feel better, but actually I hate Cairo and living in it since the minute I am back (I travel all the time, why this time?!)
I have been walking around in circles in the streets of downtown for the last hour and half.
Imagine what is the topic that pops-up into my mind in such situation?! Ok I will let you guess.
Mohaly
P.S. I think I am stoned!

Note: "No Hard Feelings" Series Suspension

Dear Readers, I missed you. I am very sorry but I will have to stop the "No Hard feelings" series till further notice. This is not a cancellation of the series, but just postponement in order to be capable to have something valuable to add. I hope it wont be for long. The other series "The Vision" is continuing with Episode 9 this week.
Thank You for understanding,
Mohaly

675) FUN ::: 3 Soldiers & A Tourist !

Since I won't have access whole of next week, I would leave you with some fun :)

Questions:

1. Why does it need 3 soldiers to take a photo of a tourist (notice 2 of them are looking at the one taking the picture)?

2. What does her pause mean?!

3. What the Hell is he shooting?!!!!

Enjoy your vacations ...

Mohaly

674) No Hard Feelings - Ep.5 - Men Don't Change!

This Episode is tackling LAO's question of Why do men change after marriage..

1) Actually men don't change after marriage. It is your perception that do change.

Before marriage, you don't live together 24 hours a day. You can't see all the sides of the man's personality

During the time you spend together, they present the best side of themselves in front of each other.Before marriage, there is just this physical attraction. You may know your partner significantly well but not good enough to know his dark side, if not his ugliest side.

2) Some men take their wives for granted (he has already won the hunting competition, and you is his khalas). They used their weapons (even sweet ones), then they just let it all out after they have officially become husband and wife.

I have once read an article about what to do right after marriage: "After every wedding comes a marriage. With marriage, couples need to learn another set of soft skills like giving respect and managing expectations to sustain their marriage."

Life after marriage is going to be very different, whether you like it or not.

"Marriage is hard enough without bringing unrealistic expectations into it. People don't change just because they say I do in their marriage vows and their partners shouldn't expect them to."

What I wanna say here is that you should SET your expectations right. Expect that he will do 50% of what he is doing before marriage, if you are fine with that, then go for it, but don't be fool and expect that he is exactly the same person that you have known before. However, life has a good side too, sometimes you realize some good stuff that you haven't seen in him before too. So, if you live each day of your marriage with realistic expectation, there are actually many good things you can look forward each day.

Mohaly

Next Sunday: Off (not sure I will have access in an abroad trip).

Following Sunday: Men hiding in their Caves!

673) The Vision - Episode 8 - Obstacles!

In Episode 7, you should have drawn your path/strategy to reach your goals. Now you have to think deeply about the barriers and obstacles that may come in your way to implement these strategies. These barriers can be internal (being lazy for example) or external (e.g. against family will).

Then have a table of 4 columns as follows:


Be realistic in your approach and take enough time to think.
If you want, please share with us the obstacles and let's discuss how can you overcome it. It is an opportunity to make use of the blog intellectual minds we have here :)

Mohaly

672) No Hard Feelings - Episode 4 - Hunters!

Nerro seems frustrated from the fact that quite a considerable number of men do get bored from "what you see is what you get" women...

Actually it is true, the men who act like that are not few. On the personal level I can't tell why because I don't like surprizes even good ones, so what you see is what you get is great for me. So I went on doing some research about it.

Many men -by nature- tend to hunt and win. This kind of men tend to get bored easily when they don't see any challenge if they are not hunting the woman and winning her. Hence, when what they see is what they lose interest and get bored. They want to dig, know, and even surprize the woman.

Some women on the other hand don't leave any room for imagination or creativty coz they are too practical, and many men don't like that as they feel that it is their role to act practically (walahi mafeesh a7san men el set el practical fe nazari; I see that practical women are the best).

What to do in that case?

When you are considering a man of this kind. Try not to reveal everything, give him the info bit by bit, let him discover some himself; fulfil the inner victory that he feels. However, if you reached a point where you feel that you are not yourself anymore, then this is not the right man for you, and believe me he won't even feel or appreciate that in the future.

Just a final word here for all the hunters out there: "The woman who is known only through a man is known wrong." Henry Adams.

Next Sunday: Lao's HOT question "why do men have such a hot and warm emotions before marriage and after marriage he becomes a robot."?

671) Mother's Day ... The Pure Love !

To all the mothers, let me tell you that you are the most precious gift God have ever granted us. For all those who lost their mothers (or grandmothers) this year, don't turn it into a sad event, celebrate it and remember all the sweet moments, and how did they bring you up to be the man or the woman you are now.

Mama, may God bless you and grant you all the health and happiness.

Grandma, the first mothers' day without her is different, but I still feel her presence and sweet smile.

Noha (sister), Happy mothers' day has a new meaning now with lovely Nour. She adds up a lot of sugar to the challenges of life. May God give you the power and love to raise her up.

May God Bless all the mothers those who are among us, and those who left..

Mohaly

670) Hope is born from Despair !

At a certain moment...

when you feel that you lost everything that you have done and there is no time to do it again...

at this specific moment, hope and creativity are born, and you amaze yourself by how good you can do it again and again and even on the right time..

Don't lose hope, you may not be able to change fate, but you can control your destiny..

Mohaly

experiencing the loss of all the work I did for the last couple of days, and writing this to encourage myself and others who may experience the same...

669) The "Peace Process" ... Save the Killer!

The weird thing in the so called "peace process" is that we sacrificed the mother "Palestine land", the father "Palestine Authority", the baby "Palestine People", and even the doctor "Egypt & Arabs", in order for the killer "Israel" to live!

Mohaly

668) No Hard Feelings -Eps.3- Men Buttons!

Back to Engy's query about men and buttons & how may they say something they don't mean or do...!

In my opinion, the problem ya Engy is that many men want to have everything in one women. They do ignore some stuff at the begining (when passion or lust is in the air), then once they feel they have it all, they start looking back for the missing stuff. At this point they may say stuff that they really don't feel or mean; i.e. push the "acting button".

Men have many buttons, the most common are:

"Career Button": Unless you will give support, care, and respect, don't even think to mess with this button.

"Food Button": I don't know why do married men get so interested in food, but this button can be easily controlled with understanding his taste and matching it with your capabilities.

"Sex Button": Handle with care. Men look at sex differently, it is more of a need than a passion. So if you are not pressing the right buttons at the right time, the animal inside him will come out and be un-controllable.

"Hobbies Button": Football or other. This can be controlled by giving him sometime off to do it, and trying to share it with him from time to time (and keep an eye as well ;).

Other buttons depends on the personality of the man and lifestyle. In all cases, note by hard the real priorities of your man, and you set the right strategy to control all the buttons. BUT TAKE CARE, he has to feel that he is the one controlling, even if he really isn't ;)

M.o.h.a.l.y.

Next Sunday: Nerro's question about "what you see is what you get" and its boredom..

667) The Confusing Man .. RIP !

This man Sheikh Mohamed Tantawy - Allah yer7amo- was really confusing. Sometimes I felt that he represents the moderate view of Islam in a simple way, and some other times I felt that he is just one of the ministers or political figures, and just serving a certain agenda.

Sometimes it is hard to judge people, but time will reveal everything when it is due ...

May Allah Bless his soul, and send us someone who can lead the reputable Azhar to be back as it was .. The Enlightenment of Moderate Muslims.

Mohaly

P.S. A friend of mine asked me a very sneaky question; what if "someone" else died as well suddenly yesterday in his abroad trip? What would have happened?!!

666) El Sheetan Mahzoz!

I don't know why 666 is associated with Satan, but since it is the 666th post, it may be an opportunity to talk about this unique creature.

I personally think that Satan's positioning is extremely exaggerated. We -people- feel better when we have someone to blame and throw all 0ur mistakes and wrong decisions upon him. The beauty is that other people will even listen, agree, and sometimes support and say: "El Sheetan Shater" (Satan is Clever). I actually think that till Judgement Day, "Satan" is lucky (El Sheetan Mahzoz). His job description is soo much matching with his targets, his clients, his working environment, and he can now just score by inertia!

People are weak, and they deny that the real devil is within them, the real devil is their inability to have a serious stop with themselves, admit what they did wrong, ask God & people for forgiveness, and start over. "Satan" is just a CATALYST in a chemical reaction. If you don't put the right ingredients from the beginning, don't blame the catalyst for the results.

I am not defending Satan of course, but I am -again- saying that his role is exaggerated specially with all the knowledge we gain over the millenniums. We should use the power of mind and faith to put him in the real size he deserves.

May God Bless us all from Satan, and from our inner devils.

Mohamed

665) Personal ::: Many Hard Feelings!

I am very sorry for not writing my weekly article in the "No Hard Feelings" series. I am just fed up with the enormous pressure my family (and extended family) is putting on me during the whole of past week on daily and even hourly basis.

I cant feel worse about myself! They are making me feel like being of no benefit or value if I am not maried. "You will regret it", "You will just take what others left", "You will live in Misery"!

Quick Example: I attended my cousin's engagement in the weekend, and every single aunt/woman relative was screwing my head with "see this girl, what about the other girl I told you about, why dont you go out with a third girl since your sister is here,....etc).

They are after me at home, on mobile, events, even on facebook!

I am sorry dear readers, in such mood I will be lying if I said "No Hard Feelings", coz there are many inside me now.

P.S. I promise to continue with episode 3 next week in-shaa-Allah.

Mohaly
S.O.S.

664) The Vision - Episode 7 - How?!

You know now who you are, your uniquenss, what difference you can make, your vision about life and death...

Enough thinking about big stuff, let's move into actions...

What are the strategies that you are setting to achieve your goals and realize your vision?!

in other words, what are the sequenced actions that you are going to take (or is taking) to achieve your goals?

Note that the strategy is your fingerprint, give it some thought..

Think Realistic, Think Big, Think we khalas!!

Mohaly

663) No Hard Feelings -Eps.2- Friendship II !

Today we continue talking about Friendship between Men and Women focusing on signs and how to deal with it..

According to the classification made in post 659, you should be dealing with signs as follows:

1) Potential Lover (love, girlfriend, wife...etc): The guy will always give signals of wanting more than friendship (e.g. showing how much stuff you have in common, exaggerated interest in stuff that arent usually of his interest, long pointless looks, extra nice words, giving u priority over important stuff, or even treating u with aggression...etc). In such case (& if u r interested), don't give explicit signs of interest unless he gave you explicit signs, and don't say it bluntly unless he does, keep on the safe side. If you are a risk taker, then you can give the signs, but be aware that some men (actually many of them) like to make the 1st move (p.s. i am not one of them, i personally don't care who starts).

2) Wanna Sleep with (sex friend, slut,...etc). That is the easiest.. gestures, words, signs are too obvious. For those who know it, use it.. for el 2otat el meghamada, I wont be ur eye opener here ;)

3) Secrets Keeper and Eye Opener (real friend, mutual benefit, his guide in other sex's world). Usually the guy here is cautious at the begining and he gives conservative signs of interest of being together but within formal framework. Ya3ni, for example, if he likes cultural stuff, he may ask you to join him in a cultural event, and most prob. he will be inviting others too. In the outing, he will always be talking about the event and not about you. When he start feeling that you are categorizing him in the same category, he will open up and talk freely about himself without any confusing signs. May be this will develop into love signs later, but at that time, you will be knowing toooo much about him that u will know 3alatoool.

4) Red Lighter (don’t even think, trouble becomes her!) .. Hmm, this is an easy one like no.2, he will always try to not be present or around for a long time. He will also have very short and formal way of communications. He will never initiate an outing or something that make you come closer. If you are not interested, then you just let it go. If you want to show him that he is exaggerating, you need to take slow and easy, and prove -practically- that you are not the one he thinks you are. But you need to understand him first to know how can you have the right approach.

5) Good to know, without real knowledge of how to be classified now (postponed). This is as I said the most confusing. He will give all signs of interest and disinterest, intimacy and rejection. One day he asks you out, the other day he doesn't answer your communication. One day he get you gifts, the other day he ignores an appointment... He likes part of you but still cant take you as a package. He wants to change you to have the right complete picture in his head. Unless you are willing to change this is a dead-end relationship, give signs of rejection. If both of you are confused - 7aga te2ref- then take it slowly, and one step at a time. Don't think much till there is consistency in the relationship and try to be as transparent and honest as possible. El 7ekaya mesh na2sa tawahan!

So what I wanna say here is that there is no one size fits all. It all depends on the kind of communication you both have and how do you usually deal with the other gender. The above classification and tips are just a guide, but every relation has its own unique challenges as well.

Let me stop again & discuss, before getting into Engy's query in episode 3: Why men seem to have buttons? How come they have the ability to say and do things that they are not really feeling?

Mohaly

662) M.O.H.@.L.Y.I.C.S ::: Volume IV !

Oh My God .. It is the 4th year already!!

My last words last year were I hope that we will be together till we celebrate the completion of the 3rd year as we started it together. Wish you all the best, and Happy Anniversary :) & here we are celebrating it.

This blog became another home to me where I have brothers, sisters, cousins, neighbors...etc. A complete virtual life where some of its members I know, others I have just talked too and some never met!

This year was the least in the amount of posts but the most in the amount of interaction and comments. This means that the blog is getting more mature, and this puts me in a position of responsibility. Although I do write as an amatur (even my official articles) but I feel responsbile infornt of my readers and blog followers.

Everytime when I am running out of ideas or topics, I find myself starting a whole new series that leads to another and another, and with your support and assurance that it makes a difference, I was able to go on and on and on..

Since 2007: 662 posts, 6599 comments (some posts were over 50) were posted in 2,385 web pages. 32,090 visitors paid 124,250 visits creating 230,065 page views from 137 countries. Blog Followers has increased from 12 to 59 in the 3^rd year.

Most visiting countries are Egypt (52%), USA (18%), UK (5%), Morocco (4%), Switzerland (4%), UAE (4%), Australia (2%), Germany (2%), Saudi Arabia (2%), & Canada (1%), Other (6%).

I am glad that only half of the people come from Egypt, this enriches the discussions. Noblese I guess you are happy, it jumped to 4% this year.

Average Time on Site is 4.2 mins per visit; i.e. visitors had spent 8697 hours on this blog since it started (that is almost a whole year!). 39% is the average percentage of new visits.

Top Visited Posts in 3^rd Year: Being Yourself Series, The Vision Series (still continuing), Miss Egypt (Post 585), EL Escort wal Doctor (587), Egyptian Map (post 646), Sexual Frustration in Egypt (Post 620), Watch out for what you give women (post 545), 7eena Maysara (post 350), Certainty about Virginity (Post 607), Obama chooses Egypt (Post 559), & 3asr El 7areem (Post 579).

This was definitely the most successful year in terms of statistics and interaction. I hope I can keep it up for you this year as well.

There are soooo many things and stuff in my head I wanna say about the blog and about you the readers, followers, commenters, and how you are changing my life to better and keeping me up when I am down ... I will just say what I have in mind we khalas..

Ibhog: My little brother whom I am proud of, I wish him to rest on a shore soon.

Hisham: The good mind that disapperared fi zereof Ghamda.

Shamiaa: 3amdeedet el Readers! A post without her comment is still incomplete.

Nerro: A beautiful mind & smile, an asset to any blog.. specially here.

Hebba: Mo7ami el Blog! She talks about it better than me.

Merihan: Defet El Sharaf! I wish we can see u more frequently.

Noblese: I really enjoyed your rational and unbaised views. I wish I can see your contribution more often.

Ze2red & Deppy: konbelet 2010! I really enjoyed the energy boost you gave and still giving :)

Batabeet: Still laugh every time I read it :)

Engy & Insonmiac: I don't know why, but when I see your comments in a post, I know that it will be a fruitful one! Hope to see u more often.Pax: Intellectual discussions are missing without your contribution.

Noly & Gjoe: The rational and quiet comments.

Tamer: teskot teskot, we tefagar el kanabel

Gypo: Welcome back my twin mind, welcome back :)

Amina & Ahmed: always present, when will u get married?

Missed: Omar (rabena yefok de2tak), Mona (no comment), Saralona (howa ya omar ya balash), Elham (enti feen), Bo2bo2 & Embee the geeks, Fatima (om Jannat), Khateeb, & Yasmine.

This is in addition to all the new followers, commenters, and those who just read .. (e.g. Salma, Marrianne, Lao, Mohie, Sherry, Neisy, Ahmad, R El Tayeb, Willy, and many others) . Thank You all for trusting me, interacting with what I write, and giving me the chance to make a small positive difference.

Special thank to Marwa Rakha who is a good reader, analyzer, and a good listener as well.

I am sorry if I missed anyone, we are much bigger family than before, but believe me and know that I am very sincere when I say that": I DO LOVE YOU my virtual family :)))

May God Bless you.. where i can always see you around me, and help me to be up to your expectations.

Mohaly

P.S> Happy Mawled as well.

661) The Vision - Episode 6 - Death & After !

It is getting more annoying now...

Last Episode we discussed life and living..

now it is the death's turn..

What does Death represent to you?

How do you see what you are doing in life linked to your death and after life (if you you are a believer of course)?

Should I be happy when I die because I am moving forward? or I should be sad coz I left it all behind?

This cant be answered spontaneously.. this time SIT and think before your share your comments...

Good Luck,

we Rabena Yostor,

Mohaly

660) E3terafat Mohaly - Part 3!

Since I am talking about Friendship and mixed signs, it may be a good opportunity to send some messages and have a new part of "e3terafat mohaly"..

I admit that I have given mixed signs to the following, and I do apologize for any trouble I might have caused. But I swear that the minute I realized I caused confusion, I pulled out and made it clear that I don't wanna cause any more confusion.

W: I was very much interested in your case (personal problem) and wanted to help you. I am afraid that I crossed the friendship line when we started going out together regularly; it seems like dating, and I was the one supposed to make it more clear even though I never talked about "us" as a couple. The day you met me and told me you are confused, it was a slap on my face, and that is why I told you I should pull out, and that is what I did couple of days after this meeting. You are fun to be with and I do enjoy your company, but I don't wanna cause you any more confusion about "us", I don't think friendship can work here as it can cause more confusion.

B: The pure clean and great person who has feelings that can cover the world. I can't deny that I do really love the way you give support to your friends specially when they are down, but I always see you as my older sister, and I do really love you as a human being. Al Hamdullah that I was saying that I can't afford more than friendship since I started feeling your clean and pure feelings towards me. I am really interested in your friendship without having any hidden agendas. You are someone who I and others can't afford losing, but if you don't want it this way, I do respect your decision. You can be my Secret Keeper and Eye Opener and I can be your trusted friend as well, as it has to be a win-win.

R: I am sorry for the situation you have put yourself in. I was very clear that I dont do relations over the net with people I have never met. When you asked for my phone no. I refused, and inisted on keeping our communication online as I was not interested in developing this virtual friendship further than the online world. Sometimes I answered your facebook messages and emails and sometimes I didnt, when I answer it doesn’t mean I am in love, but it means that I just can't keep on ignoring you and my answers were short to the point. But I admit that this is my mistake as I should have been more assertive and block you so that I keep you away from the sad feelings that you passed through. But you have to know that your kind heart should be dedicated to real relations not virtual ones, specially if there is no solid interest from the other party.

Mohaly

P.S. I am sorry guys for disabling the comments for this post. It was an internal shout and a confession that had to be made so that it can reach them. If you have comments about the issue, the Previous, and Next episodes of No Hard Feelings are tackling the same issue but from a general scale, and you can have general comments there.

Howa ana leih daymen ba3taref in February last E3teraf kan in Feb 09 too!!!

659) No Hard Feelings - Eps. 1 - Friendship Part I !

Here we are ... I am starting and have no idea when this series will end, coz till now I have had the plot of 12 episodes in mind, and still more questions coming !! But as I said, I do take it seriously and I hope I can contribute in clearing part of the misunderstanding, but not all of it, coz I think part of the beauty of our relations is these differences and misunderstandings ;)

Friendship .. Why & When?
I will start with the most nagging question, actually the one I have -and still facing- its hell. Is there real friendship between men and women... can men and women just be friends without any hidden agendas? can this friendship last or is it a stage in life....?!!

Actually although the above questions are simple and straight to the point, the answer is VERY complicated...and subjective as well.

Let's start from the beginning of any 2 people knowing each other, what makes them friends?
hmmm. Usually -in my opinion supported by experts opinions- men have this inner classification system where consciously or unconsciously then classify women into:
1) Potential Lover (love, girlfriend, wife...etc)
2) Wanna Sleep with (sex friend, slut,...etc)
3) Secrets Keeper and Eye Opener (real friend, mutual benefit, his guide in other sex's world)
4) Red Lighter (don’t even think, trouble becomes her!)
5) and good to know, without real knowledge of how to be classified now (postponed)

So it all depends on how she is classified from the beginning.
1) Potential Lover: Friendship is a stage to get closer, it either leads to more intimate relation or getting her out of his life. It is very hard to continue as friends here as he will always give you signs of wanting more than being your friend, and it is hard to take it back.
2) Wanna Sleep with :) when I was studying in Los Angeles in the 90s, they used call it "Friends with Benefits" so it is friends afterall .. heheh. I don't think I need to elaborate here, signs are usually blunt from both sides, wala eih ;)
3) Secrets Keeper and Eye Opener: This is the real friendship.. Usually the girl here doesn’t fit the criteria of 1 & 2, and has good mind too, so there is real interest of pure friendship.. however, if this friendship turned out to be love someday, it becomes a very good one coz -in my opinion- love based on friendship is much more durable than love based on feelings only. So signs here are genunie and cant be confused, even if it turned out to be something more, you will be in a stage that you do understand each other without even talking.
4) Red Lighter: He is afraid of getting near hear for one reason or another, so all the signs here will be signs of rejection or over respect, he will be sure not to give any mixed signs. Howa mesh 2adik ;)
5) The good to know has a big share of the mixed feelings, and actually this is the category where the guy himself is confused and can't afford but to give mixed signs, ... it may drive the girl nuts begad!

So what I wanna say is, in order to understand the bigger picture and be able to deal with the signs, you need to figure out how does he think/categorize.. but since this topic is really wide, I will dedicate the next episode for it as well (how to deal the mixed signals), but let's stop here and have some discussion about these stages before going into the 2nd part of "Friendship".

Mohaly