785) Sexual Compatibility & Marriage !

When people get married in Egypt and the Arab World in general, they usually try to know everything about each other and their families, and in pre-arranged marriages, they may even have lists to ask each other to make sure that they are compatible. 

What I am wondering about is how do they know that they are sexually compatible, and do they discuss that or not since it is one of the critical issues in marriage that can lead to its falling apart.

I am also wondering about men in this part of the world who insist that they are perfect and even give us a headache about how great they are in bed, and how many women are on their agenda, while their wives may be complaining about their performance. Do some men think that they know how to please women while they really just make them feel frustrated and sometimes humiliated?

Before someone thinks that I am calling for pre-marital sex, I am not calling for anything, I am just wondering how can you make sure that you are marrying the right person on different levels.

Mohaly

620) Sexual Frustration in Egypt!

You may expect a long post for such title, but I just have very quick related questions that may lead to much longer answers, and may be other parts of the post:

1. Are Egyptians (in general) sexually frustrated whether they are married or not?

2. Why?

3. What kind of effect this frustration (if yes) has on the quality of life in this country specially Cairo?

Mohaly

609) Being Yourself ::: Episode 2 - Part 2 !

This is the 2nd part of last post. Ref: 608

Mohaly

Dear Mohaly,

how far would you -males- go against your society and family and be yourself, when it comes to loving a girl who has "unusual" conditions?
with unusual conditions i mean mainly 2 areas:

2. a girl who has been raped?
would you go against your society and family and marry a girl who has been raped?
out of love and respect and trust - not out of pitty or a heroic temp feeling?
only at a certain phase you would know this truth about her. would you believe her word, or she has to provide some proof?
would you be able to completely forget this fact and start a normal life with such a girl, keeping in mind that she is human, or unconscios influence of society would interfere here?
do you think she has the right to marry somone of her choice, up to her standards and maybe love- or te7med rabena that she finds soemone to marry aslan?
would you be yourself and prefer that she tells before marriage or keeps it hidden through any channel? correct the "mistake" and just keep her mouth shut?
would you be yourself and really work on making it up to her becuase she is just the same girl you know well enough to ask her to share your life? or would tradition interfere and you prefer to stay away and enough that you would keep her secret?

607) The Certainty about Virginity!

I find the way we handle the issue of virginity in our society a pure sort of hypocrisy and double standards. How come we are entering the 2nd decade of the 21st century, and a vast majority of us are still valuing and classifying women according to z-sometimes only according to- physical virginity?

I am not calling for having an open pre-marital sexual relations (although I still believe that it is totally a personal choice, and something that is hard to judge as it is All mighty God's not us who can judge, and punish- unless publically witnessed by 4 which is practically almost impossible ...etc.).

For the Hypocrisy part, we all know that now it is very easy for any girl to do what she wants and keep her virginity:

1. Either by going through all the steps the last step (you know what I mean).

2. Having an operation.

3. And now the latest Chinese -why am I not surprized- invention below!

So are we fooling ourselves or what?

For the Double Standards, I can't understand how come it is relatively acceptable -sometimes "desirable"- for men to have pre-marital sexual relations while women are always to be blamed and judged! I personally see virginity as an attitude and respect before being a physical test to prove it, whether you are a man or a woman!

Last and not least, why I do I feel that China understands us more than ourselves? They know that the Arab Culture is generally pro being satisfied if everything in public or on paper is fine, even if it is actually not!

Mohaly

القاهرة - قالت تقارير صحفية ان الاسوق السورية استقبلت في الايام الاخيرة "أغشية بكارة صناعية" مستوردة من الصين.

واشار تقرير لوكالة انباء دي برس السورية ان غشاء بكارة الصينى يباع في العاصمة السورية دمشق مقابل 15 دولار.

ونقلت الوكالة نص الإعلان الشائع في شوارع المدن الصينية الذي يقول "استعيدي عذريتك في خمس دقائق ، المنتج التكنولوجي الراقي.. سرك المفزع يختفي للأبد ، استعيدي عذريتك بخمسة عشر دولارا ، بلا جراحة، ولا حقن، ولا أدوية ولا آثار جانبية بخمسة عشر دولارا فقط".

590) Khalee El Sela7 Sa7i ;) !!

This is a banned commercial of the new version of Khali El Sela7 Sa7i :))
The problem is that the ad is all about young people, 7aga te2le2 !
Mohaly
P.S. Ana mela7ez en el summer heat me2asar 3alaya shewaya el yomen dol fel posts ;)

587) El Escort wal Doctor !!

Since Maha couldn't tolerate more of the last post, so i decided to give her el darba el 2adia :)

Omar -tab3an- has forwarded me a website - i wont publish its URL, hehe ;)- that announces sex escorting service, where ya 7elween?in CAIRO! we eih, details el details, nas professional el sara7a, every thing has its own price and most of the girls are from eastern Europe.

Tab3an I won't even discuss the concept and how did it penetrate Egypt! That is an endless story. El mohem, how much ba2a for a day ..... kam, 1000 LE la2 tab3an da yemken el entag el ma7ali, kam, aiwa... 10,400 LE !!!!! (mesh fahem ana eih el 400 LE!)

Tayeb, I am a PhD holder, teaching masters and diploma students in a reputable university, managing consultant and board member in a reputable company, and a reputable trainer in Egypt and arab region.... If I got crazy and asked for this amount in 1 man day of consulting, training, ..etc, It will be akeed the last day in my career... I know that -surprisingly- renting minds is much less profitable (no comparison aslan) than renting bodies, bas mesh keda!

So ya Maha, and all my dear blog readers ... I need your opinion, how should i feel about that?!

Akhokom El Mafrous,
Mohaly

540) Human Males & Sex !

According to the Kinsey Report (Sexual Behavior in the Human Male), 54 percent of men think about sex every day or several times a day, 43 percent a few times a week or a few times a month, and 4 percent less than once a month.

I was wondering why most of men are always thinking and seeking sex, while most of women don't do that frequently or sometimes even at all !

Mohaly

491) Swingers in Cairo!

I was shocked when I read that the police has discovered a swinging club in Cairo where 40 couples (Egyptians and Arabs) are members in swapping their wives and "enjoying" each other's spouses!!

The rate of moral deterioration is really beyond expectations!

Mohaly

411) What Men Want - Episode 6 !

P.S. Is it a coincidence that episode sex, ops six, is being written from Sharm ;)

This "want" for sure won't surprize any of you, "Sex".

Men know what they like in bed and tend to stick to it. The adventurous sexual appetite in most men isn't there even if they are convinced it is. Men in reality are quite conservative. Sexually adventurous has nothing to do with having lots of partners and more to do with the things they will try with the same partner.

We have a big contradiction in Egypt regarding women and sex! Men want women to be somehow experienced or know how to please him, and in the same time someone who is a sex naive, and consider this "naive" as a sign of well-mannered female. I really hate men who classify women some for sex and others for marriage!!

I see sex as the ultimate peak of showing love, so sex without love is a short-sighted fun mechanism. Many women in Egypt are raised perceiving sex as a taboo, and afraid of it. It should be treated like food and drink. It is desired and should be wanted but within the limits set by God.

I'd consider sex to a marriage like salary to a job. It is not the only- and may not be the most important- criteria in choosing the job, but you cant accept the job without it!

Mohaly
(eli lesa masek nafso! bas mesh 3aref le7ad emta!)

377) M.o.h.@.l.y.i.c.s Weekly! Esp. 7

Ahly & Zamalek:
I really cant see a better example of how management do have a great effect on the results than Ahly and Zamalek. El Ahly is not in its best form but is consistent in winning because of the stable and strategic management, while Zamalek is playing around the 5th place since the start of Dawry because of exactly the opposite. Bel Monasba, wa7ed yes2alnee, howa mawdou3 el 7adari ra7 feen, a2olo e2ra the next paragraph wenta tefham ;)

Kissing Kaman we Kaman:
It seems that this is the consistent policy of our government to keep us away of the real stuff that we should care about, after the KISS wala 7araj, now Mr.Gamal El Banna said that the 1st time in committing adultery is ok as long as it is not repeated!! Ana begad mesh 3aref a3mel eih, el7anee ya Titi!!!

AUC & Universities: I attended an event last week where 50% of the time the minister of higher eductation, and couple of university president were talking about AUC and how to be like AUC, what they need to know is that in order to see the Egyptian Universities like AUC they need ACTION not WORDS.

Speaking of AUC, I just joined this month the pool of AUC instructors for post-graduates degree. I am teaching "Strategic Management", so I am back to my beloved university :)

Moh@ly

P.S. sorry Shaimaa I wasn't available in the morning, but le7e2t el Sunday weekly :)

350) 7ena Maysara ... Ya khofee 3aleeki ya Masr!

I went to see 7eena Maysara last Monday after what I read and heard about it. It is a real reflection of the crisis and miserable situation that about 20% of the Egyptian population suffer from that directly and indirectly lead to un-employment, ignorance, addiction, adultery, homosexuality, homeless children, and terrorism.“Hena Maysara” paints a nightmarish, and completely credible, picture of low class in Egypt.

The film plot is mainly around Adel, a mechanic who struggles to support his mother, nieces and nephews left behind by absent brother and killed sister, meets Nahed who has fled abuse at the hands of her stepfather in Banha. Nahed becomes pregnant. Adel, who is already struggling to make ends meet, rejects the child because of poverty and the two go their separate ways. The rest of the film follows the separate and mostly tormented & regret lives of Nahed, Adel and their son, Ayman.

It is a WELL DONE movie expect for couple of scenes that were over, and the non-convincing part of turning a well educated kid into a street kid just because his adopted parents left him. The scenario, directing, shooting, set, music, costumes, were great. The acting was an Oscar level! all of them especially Amr Saad, Hala Fakher, Somaya El Khasbab, and the incredibly funny Amr Abdel Gelil. The one shot of Khaled Saleh reminded me of waiting for the Godot, as both of them were waited for throughout the plots.

These people shouldn't exist in the society. But because of the appearnece of the exteremely rich (that shouldnt be there too) who gained such incredible amounts of money on the expense of these poor people, the appearance of such exteremly poor is a counter act. And if the society wouldnt do something about both, we will face a social BOMB soon.

Mohaly



"There is nothing particularly original about either "Maysara’s" characters (impoverished young men, mothers forced by circumstance to seek work abroad), or its themes (poverty, violence and abuse). What sets this film apart is the way it humanizes its protagonists, ensuring that they are not reduced to clichéd stereotypes. Sara Carr in Daily News.

334) Orga or Meca Wife?!

In the last post some of you said that one of the hidden and major reasons for divorce is sex. Japan has invented a new robot that resembles the human figure, voice, movements..etc and is promoting it as the alternative wife for EVERYTHING including sex!! What I heard lately in a TV show that they are producing a male version as well and going on with the development of more smooth and natural robots!

This reminds me of AI movie where people are classified into ORGA (organic) & MECA (mechanical)...but the question is, can really a robot replace a female (or male) in bed, & can a person have a normal sex life -with the wife or husband- simultaneously or will it create problems close to sole sex acts (like masturbation)?

We 3agabi!! 3eshna we shofna!

Mohaly

244) Eih El Nizam!!

I spent a weekend in Marina. As you know, I am a RedSea person, so I havent been to Marina since 1999!

I have seen stuff I couldnt imagine that it can take part in Egypt....begad mesh fadel gher nude beaches we yeb2a keda mesh na2esna 7aga 3an Ibiza!!

El BANAT garalha eih .... making out, topless, we balawee keteer! wala el regala (bas mat2oulsh regala)...ya far7eti bel geel el gedid, rabena yostor.

Mohaly

240) Sex & the Summer!

Why is summer usually more associated with sex than the rest of the year! although it is hot and turning off doing anything!

Mohaly

217) Honna Al Kahira - Part XIII

Do you think he put the point down on purpose?!

Mohaly

193) How to lose a family in 10 says?

1. Ana Mo3gab Beeki
2. Ana Ba7ebik
3. Ana 3ayez Atgawezik
------------------------------------Gawaz Line
4. Ana As3ad wa7ed fel donya
5. Ana Mesh 3ayez asseebik abadan
6. Ana Dakhel anam we mesh 3ayez 7ad yesa7eeni
7. Ana Zah2an men el bet
8. Ana Khareg Shewaya ma3 so7abi
9. Ana Mesafer lewa7di
10. Ana mesh taye2ik wala taye2 el bet

What the hell happens between 5 and 6, and why didn't it continue building up?!
--Is it "taking her/him for granted"
--or "lack of vision and very quick development in the beginning that led to quick deterioration at the end"
--or "getting out passion in sex" or "bad sex"
--or "immaturity unprepared for responsibilities"
--or What?

It is a dilemma that this generation faces, that led to a 40% divorce rate (highest generation ever).
Mohaly

178) FUN::: Post it!!

For those with bad memory, or in favor of one-night-stands ;)

Mohaly

157) Foam Parties ... What is the point?

I never actually understood what is the fun behind Foam parties specially after its sudden invasion to Red Sea resorts...eih, mafeesh sabon fel bet, wala literally tama7ik?!

Mohaly

136) Should Egyptians have a Sex Quota!!

15 Times per day, i.e Every hour while awake!!! balash se7a, beygeeb wa2t meneen?

Khalas, kol 7aga helwa, Allah yemaseek belkheer ya 3am Moslow!!

Mohaly

Marriage & Virginity - Part II

I believe that this reply from Yasmine Farahat deserves another post of its own to dicuss the importance of virginity in egyptian marriages.
Mohaly

Y. Farahat said:
people make mistakes, men and women. say a girl was foolish and reckless, naive and in love, whatever the reason, but she ended up sleeping with a guy. it's a mistake, she admits it and regrets it. does that mean she is doomed, and would never be able to marry a decent guy? will she be judged forever because of that mistake, however big it is?like khateeb said, this is something that will have to come up in a relationship eventually.if she's dating a guy, and it's going well, and they're considering having a future together (which means that he thinks she's a good person), if she told him that she's not a virgin due to a mistake she regrets. Does that mean that he would end it just because of a mistake?I want you all to think of what i said in a very objective way, and share your thoughts.