Couple of days ago I was chatting with a dear old friend and she asked me if I have loved before, and I said that Love is a multi-dimensional word and I am not sure that I have covered all its dimensions. So she asked me to define that, and I said:"Love to be fully felt and understood it has to contain -randomly- respect, desire, itching, power & weakness, bitterness, missing, sharing, caring, lust, possession and sacrifice (willingly), mutual understanding and appreciation, common plans and chaos ... It is something that you cant see or touch, but can feel its effect on everything within you and around you, it takes you to another dimension ... and it just doesn't happen, it accumulates till you one day realize that you r way deep in love and u cant tell when did it start and how will it end..."
Am I right in describing it ?!
M.O.H.@.L.Y
Haha... You're fast! Spot on. I would add vulnerability, freedom, lack of shame and acceptance.
ReplyDeleteTotally agree ... Very well described.
ReplyDeleteFreedom and Love dont mix ya Wandering Puck :)
ReplyDeleteIs it Rhonda?
ReplyDeleteI like your choices of pictures
ReplyDeleteI would add it is completly acceptance, unconditional, selfless and it has no limitation.
ReplyDeleteseems the list can go forever depends on the needs of each person from love ... but when it comes u just dont think.
ReplyDeleteThat is why love is called blind!.
ReplyDelete"If u demand love, u destroy it." Real love goes hand on hand with freedom cuz acceptance is key.
ReplyDeletebut u cant help possession in love, so how can this get along with freedom?
ReplyDeleteThat's true, but the other person stays because they are free to stay not because they have to. What happens with some married couples, they stay because they have to not because the want to. It's the freedom of choice.
ReplyDeletefreedom is an essential part of love. for me, anyway.
ReplyDeletemiddle eastern men often confuse it to love someone with "get hold on her" that it scares me off.
when u love someone u would want them to chose you with their own free will, under no spell, for who u really deep down are. with all ur faults and small or big issues, with all ur truths. valuing everything in u and cherishing it - not only accepting it.
damn hard to find, i know. but this is what love is for me.
also mutual offer of "feeling secure". i hate it when i am put into a competition or test or whatever u want to call it. for me it is a 100% commitment with no chance of backing or cheating or games. which is, again, damn hard to find. but inevitable for me :-)
ReplyDeleteIt goes both ways ya Maryam..most of Egyptian women act like as if they are our guardians and that is against freedom...
ReplyDeleteAs for security .. I dont think it has to do with love... On the contrary.. much security may ruin love and get u taken for granted.. earning it and always working on it is what makes live lasts but security isn't part of love.
ReplyDeleteMaintaining love is part of it of course ya Doctor. What i mean is not putting my love in test.not questioing my committment and of course neither his.
ReplyDeleteThere is a huge difference between security n taken for granted, however the culture therefor is not much known here.
The minute im taken for granted is the very same one im out of the relationship.
Actually security is the door tht allows the relationship to develop and grow. Before that i think is the phase of founding or putting the basics.
Maalesh i might sound weird to you and to many.but this is who i am :-)