Since Mubarak's second speech, I have been watching -and experieicing myself- numerous debates between people for and against one issue or another (Mubarak ends his term or not, people leave the streets or not, and the famous debate about Shafik that wasted a lot of precious time and effort). Having different opinion is something needed and very healthy if we want to have a democratic system on all levels, I remember a Japanese proverb saying: "The day we stop discussing different opinions, they day we stop producing". However, what I didn't like is the immature culture of not understanding what debates and discussions are all about. I have seen friends un-friending each other on facebook, I have seen friends insulting and cursing each other...FOR WHAT, for having different Opinions!!
Honestly I was afraid that this will be the Egyptian Version of Democracy, and for a minute I was afraid that what Omar Soliman said about democracy in Egypt was right. But I quickly got these negative thoughts out of my mind, and decided to be more positive through getting engaged in all the discussions and keeping the highest level of tolerance and acceptance till I oblige the other party to respect the conversation without turning it into personal debate or fight.
That is why I decided to write about democracy and how can we have our own positive understanding of democracy in Egypt keeping into consideration our culture and norms. I do believe that there are certain rules about democracy that is common everywhere, but there are some other that have to consider the culture of each country.. So how do I see Egyptian Democracy?
Common Rules:
- Freedom of expression: Listening to each other, and respecting others opinions evern if we disagree.
- Tolerance: Entering any debate with the intention of changing your mind if it makes sense.
- Acceptance: of the opinion of the majority, and the rigths of the minority.
- Faith: Knowing that your voice count even if you are a minority.
Egyptian Flavour:
- Charisma and Kindness: It is part of the culture here that at least 50% of the discussion will be based on the charisma and how kind is your opposition.. We are emotional, and we have to take that into consideration.
- Sarcasm: Ability to mock different parties but within the limits of not insulting them.
- Fazlaka: We may expect too much talking and lengthy introduction to the point, and knowing everything.
What was happening for those for and anti Shafik, and now between Muslims and Christians, Men, Women, black and white lists...etc is not right... I mean everyone has the right to express his opinion but without attacking or fighting others. Your opinion is right but may be wrong, and my opinion is right but may be wrong. We have to realize and differentiate between having different opinions, and those who want us to be always on fire leading to Chaos. We need to reach a win win situation. We can't afford any party losing in such critical time.
Educate people about Democracy and its values.
Volunteer time to help People understand and share.
Optimism will never let you give up, specially during hard times.
Love will help you not to hate people who have different opinions.
Unity of different backgrounds and ideologies into one big vision.
Trust is essential for people to cooperate even if they have different beliefs.
Integrity leads to credibility and trust.
Organization of people who share the same values and thoughts.
Non-Violence is the tool of the powerful people (we were a great example for the world).
We have impressed the world with our Egyptian Revolution, and we need to continue impressing them with our Egyptian Democracy.
Mohaly
Honestly I was afraid that this will be the Egyptian Version of Democracy, and for a minute I was afraid that what Omar Soliman said about democracy in Egypt was right. But I quickly got these negative thoughts out of my mind, and decided to be more positive through getting engaged in all the discussions and keeping the highest level of tolerance and acceptance till I oblige the other party to respect the conversation without turning it into personal debate or fight.
That is why I decided to write about democracy and how can we have our own positive understanding of democracy in Egypt keeping into consideration our culture and norms. I do believe that there are certain rules about democracy that is common everywhere, but there are some other that have to consider the culture of each country.. So how do I see Egyptian Democracy?
Common Rules:
- Freedom of expression: Listening to each other, and respecting others opinions evern if we disagree.
- Tolerance: Entering any debate with the intention of changing your mind if it makes sense.
- Acceptance: of the opinion of the majority, and the rigths of the minority.
- Faith: Knowing that your voice count even if you are a minority.
Egyptian Flavour:
- Charisma and Kindness: It is part of the culture here that at least 50% of the discussion will be based on the charisma and how kind is your opposition.. We are emotional, and we have to take that into consideration.
- Sarcasm: Ability to mock different parties but within the limits of not insulting them.
- Fazlaka: We may expect too much talking and lengthy introduction to the point, and knowing everything.
What was happening for those for and anti Shafik, and now between Muslims and Christians, Men, Women, black and white lists...etc is not right... I mean everyone has the right to express his opinion but without attacking or fighting others. Your opinion is right but may be wrong, and my opinion is right but may be wrong. We have to realize and differentiate between having different opinions, and those who want us to be always on fire leading to Chaos. We need to reach a win win situation. We can't afford any party losing in such critical time.
(c) Olemdia
How to Turn REVOLUTION to EVOLUTION?Educate people about Democracy and its values.
Volunteer time to help People understand and share.
Optimism will never let you give up, specially during hard times.
Love will help you not to hate people who have different opinions.
Unity of different backgrounds and ideologies into one big vision.
Trust is essential for people to cooperate even if they have different beliefs.
Integrity leads to credibility and trust.
Organization of people who share the same values and thoughts.
Non-Violence is the tool of the powerful people (we were a great example for the world).
Mohaly
Hi Mohaly
ReplyDeleteThis article is very important so if you please I ask ur permission to translate it and then send it to u to review as I am going to make a video in local Arabic for those who can't read & write I will try to send it everywhere even to TV building as I am afraid from chaos
sure Cherie, all rights reserved :)
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ReplyDeleteI think this is one of the most needed articles during this time, i agree about every single letter in it.. unfortunately we are asking for Democracy but no one knows what is the real meaning of democracy.. some Egyptians demand the best for Egypt, others have their own demands and others are setting and just watching.. i've been through different phases but thanks God i am reading all your articles and topics that you share and that in turn caused a very high level of optimism, for that i am so thankful.
ReplyDeleteWhat i like the most about this article is how we turn the revolution to evolution part, it is so important and needed.
God bless Egypt and faithful Egyptians Insha2 Allah :)
Thank Celebrity, these words give me power to write more and feel that I can help in making a positive difference.. You are most welcomed to share.
ReplyDeleteدكتور انا ترجمتوا بالعامية عشان دا الكلام اللى هقولوا فى الفيديو وهقول طبعا ان دا مش كلامى دا كلام الدكتور بتاعي :) محمد علي :)
ReplyDeleteاحنا مصريين - الديمقراطية على الطريقة المصريه
بعد الخطاب الثاني للريس لائيت الكثير من المناقشات والخناقات بين الناس المؤيده ومعارضة (مبارك يسيب الحكم ولا لأ والناس تسيب الشارع ولا لأ) وطبعا الجدل والخناقات المشهورة اللى حصلت على شفيق اللى ضيعت وقتنا ومجهودنا
طيب عشان نفهم يعني اية ديمقراطية لازمك نعرف ان الأختلاف في الرأي شىء مطلوب وصحي ومهم كمان لو كنا فعلا عاوزين ديمقراطية دا حتى فى مقل ياباني بيقول "اليوم اللى نبطل فيه المناقشة والتعبير عن اراءنا المختلفة ... هيكون اليوم اللى هنتوقف فيه عن الأنتاج"
اكيد الناس كلها بتكرهه الجدل الطويل والمناقشات الكثيرة اللى بتتحول في الأخر لخناقات وإهانات لمجرد اختلاف بسيط في الرأي و الصراحة انا خفت لتكون دي هي الديمقراطية اللى فمهمها المصريين ولحظة حسيت ان كلام عمر سليمان صح واننا فعلا مش مستعدين للديمقراطية لكن قولت لنفسي لأ لازم اخرج من الأفكار السودة دي من دماغي، قررت ان انا اكون ايجابي اكثر واحاول ادخل في الحوارات مع الناي واحاول اجبر الناس المعارضة والمؤيده بأنها تحترم الحوار وتبعد عن الجدل الشخصي و الخناقات اللى بتتحول لشىء شخصي بين الأفراد عشان كدا قررت ان انا اكتب عن اليقراطية وازاى نفهمها بسهوله وطبعا نراعي الخلطة السرية المصرية
طيب يعني ايه الديقراطية المصرية؟
معنى الديقراطية العام:
1. حرية التعبير: اية الكلام الصعب دا؟ يعني ان انا اسمع اللى قدامي واحترموا حتى لو مش عاجبني كلاموا... ماهو مش بيشتمني ولا بيهني
2. اتحمل: الدخول في أي مناقشة حتي لول كنت عاوز اللى قدامي يغير رأيوا لازم اسمعوا لأن ممكن هو اللى يقنعني يبقى مئفلش دماغي.
3. القبول: نتقبل بعض ، نقبل افكار الأغلبية ونحترم حق الأقلية ومنتعداش على حقوقهم
4. الأيمان : لازم تعرف ان صوتك دا مهم حتي لو كنت من ضمن الأقلية بس هتفرق ولأنوا هيغير حتى لو شىء بسيط يمكن تأثر في ناس كثير مش فاهمة وعاوزة تفهم
طيب ايه حكاية الخلطة المصرية ، يعني الطبيعة المصرية اللى عاوزنها تخدم الديمقراطية مش تقف ضدها
1. طيبتنا وشخصيتنا المصرية المميزة على مستوى العالم (لوشوفت المعدية في النيل وفيها اغاني شعبية وناس بترقص .. يبقى انت اكيد في مصر مسيحي ومسلم بيفرحوا وياكلوا مع بعض ... يبقى انت في مصر..... الخ)
50% من المناقشات في مصر بتعتمد على طبيعة الشخصية وطريقتها في الكلام وياسلام بقى لوفيها الروح المصرية المميزة وعشان احنا عاطفيين وطيبيين ولأن دا مش عيب بالعكس دا ميزة بس لو استغلنها صح (ازاى بأننا نكون ايد واحد وعلى رباط)
2. السخرية : طبعا احنا كل حاجة بنتريىء فيها داحنا وصلنا لدرجة اننا بئنا نتريىء على حالنا ونفسنا حفة دمنا من احلى الحاجات اللى فينا بس نخلي بلنا ان في فرق بين خفة الدم والأهانة يعني لما نيجي نتناقش ممكن نقول كلمة تضحك مع الناس اللى ضدنا بس مش نهنهم
3. الفزلكة: فزلكتنا اللى ودتنا في داهية احنا منعرفش نقول معرفش عشان كدا انت ممكن تتوقع ان اي حد يقول اى حاجة ويقول كلام كثير اوى ويحاول يوحيلك انوا فاهم كل حاجة فى الدنيا
استحملوا !!!
طيب ايه اللى بيحصل دلوقت دا ناس مع شفيق وناس ضدوا، مسلميين ومسيحيين وستات ورجاله .... هي أي فتنة وخلاص؟ طيب مانا قولت في الأول كل واحد ليه حق انوا يعبر عن نفسوا بس من غير خناق ومن غير تعصب يعني مش لازم يكون الرأي الصح بالنسبة ليك يبقى صح ليه دا ممكن يبقى كمان غلط لناس كثير تانية و العكس بردوا
ReplyDeleteعشان كدا لازم نفرق بين وجود اراء وافكار مختلفة وبين الفوضى، يعني لو اختلفنا ندور على اى حاجة. بنتفق فيها ونحاول ننميها.
طيب في حاجة تانية أزاى الثورة تتحول لتتطور وتنمية وبناء ؟؟؟
التعليم: لازم الناس تفهم الديمقراطية واهميتها زى ما أحنا بنعمل دلوقت
نطوع: لازم كل واحد فينا يتطوع بجزء من وقتوا يساعد فيه الناس وعلى أنهم يفهموا الديمقراطية ويتابدلوا الأراء
التفائل والأبتسامة: متزهئش ومتستسلمش وبالذات في الأوقات الصعبة زى اللى احنا فيها دي لو عند فكرة لازم توصلها
الحب: الحب مهم اوي مش حب الفلانتين والدبدوب الأحمر لأ الحب بين الناس هيخليهم يسمعوا بعض حتى ولو مختلفين
الوحده: كلنا ايد وحده مسلم مسيحي .. كبير صغير .. رجل ست كلنا مصريين ولينا حقوق وعلينا واجبات
لو احنا مختلفين تعالى نشوف اية المشترك بنا ونمية ونطورة
الثقة: لازم نثق في بعض لأن اكيد حاجة مشتركة بينا وهي مصر بلدنا دا غير الحاجات الكثير التانية نفس اللغه ونفس اسلوب الحياة ونفس الأماكن والذكريات يبقى ليه منثقش فى بعض
النزاهة: يعني اية؟ يعني الأمانة لو عندنا امانة هيبقى عندنا ثقه فى بعضنا يعني نزاعي في كل حاجة في حياتنا وكل تصرف بنعملوا
التنظيم : ننظم نفسنا والناس اللى بتشترك في افكار واحدة تعمل جمعية تنمية أو حزب يخدم الناس
اخر حاجة واهم حاجة
لا لا لا للعنف: وادينا شوفنا ثورتنا سلميه سلميه سلميه وعشان كانت سلمية حققت معجزة في اقل من 30 يوم
يارب الكلام دا يكون افاد الناس
دكتور انا زودت حاجات بسيطة يعنى عشان الناس تفهم اكثر ايضاح يعني
Thanks for this important post we need to spread the awareness of this issue , unfortunately we didn't learn this culture in our society but we can learn it if we want by ourselves
ReplyDeletegreat and had a beautiful flavour :)
ReplyDeletewe did it in 18 days only not 30 by the way.
yes honda, but it is not an option now, it is an obligation for every Egyptian who knows about democracy to spread it and educate people.
ReplyDeleteاة صح طيب في اى اضافات؟ تانبة يعنى سكر ملح ههههه
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ReplyDeletecherie: la2 keda mazbouta :)
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ReplyDeletetb3an i would love to share.. thank you doctor :)
ReplyDeleteLike it & nice photo by the way :)
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hayla hayla by all means ya Mohaly :).. do u mind if I share it on FB?
ReplyDeletea comm. skills hint.. when ur going through a discussion with a friend, start highlighting the common points u both share, this will create a friendly ground that will eliminate any challenging/sarcasm/stubborness spirit, n will open up his mind to LISTEN to ur different point of view n maybe get convinced n change his..
sunshine:
ReplyDelete- FB:of course, please do.
- communication...that is in usual cases, but these days some people argue for the sake of arguing.
interesting. this is what I call 'inner beauty'.. we used to invest a lot of time in external beauty and now we need to care about inner beauty and use every means possible to show it .. it's time to apply this article on ourselves in order... to produce and reproduce so that we continue impressing the world.
ReplyDeleteI liked our new pyramid building and how high in the sky it is!
May you continue loving and spreading knowledge the way you have done :)
I was pointing out this method for friends instead of insulting n cursing each other as u mentioned.. for those who argue for the sake of arguing, just quit the direct conv. n deliver ur opinion indirectly
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